antoni: always surprised when someone compliments you, hesitant when it comes to bold prints, greek yogurt’s #1 fan, closet bookworm, terrifyingly witty, cries quietly
bobby: loves a good sectional, can only see shades of navy and gray, can’t say no to a floral bermuda short, always wonders if you’re ready to see more, all about functionality
jonathan: hates sulfates, always lifting others up, the horniest of the group, not afraid to show affection and/or demand attention, a true hoe for DIY face masks, gives absolutely zero fucks about what others think
karamo: the Dad of the Group, softly demands that everyone have their shit together, believes there’s no such thing as too many bomber jackets, constantly reinventing yourself just because you can
tan: emotionally unavailable, fucking loves a french tuck, wants you to be you but elevated, rolls sleeves when lacking confidence, always ready for sex, please don’t touch my hair
A long time ago I took a course on the sociology of marriage and my professor said “With compromise, you both lose. As a couple, you must collaborate on the best possible outcome.” Ever since, I never prioritize compromise in a relationship, only collaboration.
this seems like a great concept and all but. what does it actually mean?
Compromise is typically thought of as a 50/50 split amongst partner’s needs. They’re both left partially unsatisfied, but this dissatisfaction is deemed acceptable because it is ‘equal.’ However, with additional effort, many problems may be solved through collaboration; keywords: additional effort.
In collaborating, one may try to make the conflict more complex in order to expand the possible positive outcomes. This requires trust in both parties, empathy, and consideration for one another’s needs.
The objective should shift from getting what you want and ‘keeping things quiet’ to making sure your partner feels heard and considered (as they should do with you). Essentially, you must trust that your partner has your happiness in mind, and you must have theirs, instead of fighting for your own best interest.
For further explanation, Google “compromise vs collaboration.”
good news everyone i got hired by the queer eye guys. i’m gonna be the sixth one and whenever they do a makeover i will be the one to go through the guy’s steam library and tell him which games suck
Having separate flags is good bcos it’s good to have a symbol for your particular identity to embrace but it also important to remember the rainbow flag unites us all. All LGBT+ people can use it. I feel like it’s somehow become assumed by a lot of younger lgbt+ people that it’s only fr gay men, which it isn’t and never has been
The rainbow flag when originally created by Gilbert Baker in 1978 actually contained 8 stripes that were assigned values and specific meanings that were meant to show what unites us and what we value as a community,
It took 30 people to hand dye AND hand stitch the first 2 pride flags- 30 people of various identities came together to create the first symbol of pride. Hot pink was removed due to fabric shortages and turquoise was mixed with indigo to have the darker blue we have today.
Having individual flags is great to show your identity but I think we shouldn’t forget that the rainbow flag isn’t reserved for gay men, it was created to show what we all have in common regardless of identity.
